R.E.S.P.E.C.T

R- Respect. Demand to be Respected. Don’t let people walk all over you because your trying to be nice. There’s a different between being nice and being foolish. If they’ve shown they don’t respect you, move on. Stop trying to explain to disrespectful people how they should be treating you. They know, they are just choosing not to show you the respect you deserve. So moving forward you don’t need that in your circle.

E- Expectations. Stop Expecting people to do and be something they are not. Just because you expect people to treat you well doesn’t mean they will. You expect that someone you care about would apologize when they’ve hurt you, but expectations can set you up for failures. Learn to separate expectations and reality.

S- Standards. Have Standards, and that goes for anyone, any type of relationships. If you don’t want to deal with people who constantly talk behind your back, talk down about you, never wanna help you, don’t build you up, don’t stick up for you when necessary and dont benefit your life in any way, Dont! Its doesnt matter if their family either. They got to go! I’m not saying be mean, I’m saying know your worth.

P- Presentation. If people Present themselves as fake, believe what you seeing. If they’ve show you they ain’t no good, stop having faith in bad people to do right. Actions always speak louder than words. Observe how people present their true selves. Don’t get hurt because you chose to wear blinders.

E- Effort. If you put forth an Effort to call, text and check on others but they don’t do it for you, pay attention. Its doesn’t have to be 50/50 but 90/10 is not acceptable. Stop making an effort to run yourself in the ground trying to worry about people who are not worried about you.

C- Commitment. Stop Committing yourself to those who would not make those same commitments to you. You’ll find yourself always upset and stating how you continue to do for people what they wouldn’t think to do for you in return. That’s letting people borrow money, baby-sitting their children, giving them rides, being a good listener, etc.

T- Time. Stop trying to delay when someone’s Time is up in your life. Everyone is not meant to go into the next chapter with you and thats okay. If they’ve served their purpose in your life, when its time to let them go, let them go.

Book Club Anyone?!

I don’t know about the rest of you but I’ve never had a thing for crocheting. I don’t really play video games anymore, I don’t like to be outside as much, and I don’t watch TV on my own but I will watch shows with my husband. I have about two maybe three friends, maybe. Prior to Covid-19 I was going out to eat, going to the movies, and I was able downtown to the river walk. I only do those things with my husband though. Not that that’s a bad thing, as I love spending time with him, but I just wish I had more girlfriends to do things with. So, I was thinking about starting a Book Club. I want to be able to hang around women my age with maybe similar interests and sharing conversations about our lives, children, work, goals, and passions. Yes, we’ll discuss the book of course. Maybe I feel a certain way about how the main character is portrayed and someone else feels different. Great, let’s talk about it. I’ve always appreciated open discussions about a topic. It allows you to see a subject through the eyes and minds of many.


I want to be a part of something that’s enjoyable. I’d like to surround myself with good people that I can be social with. I don’t have much of a social life these days outside of my parents and siblings. I feel like a book club would be the perfect combination of building relationships and enjoying the experience, and expanding minds. I personally enjoy reading and I know that I can’t possibly be the only one. Here are the things I’m
concerned about with this idea though:

  1. Genre- I want to pick books I feel people are going to enjoy as a group.
  2. Books cost- I want to ask for the members to pay a $2-4 per month due to help fund the club books, refreshments and snacks but I don’t want that to be the reason they don’t come.
  3. Date & Time- I need to pick a day and time that works for me and others (considering a poll for potential members).
  4. Successful Start- I’m nervous because I’m the queen of starting projects I don’t finish. If people don’t show will I continue until they do? How do I get people to attend?

I have a few additional things to think about to be sure that this is really what I want to do. Again, I always have the ideas but not always the drive. Overall I’m excited. I hope that all goes as planned. I need a name for my book club as well. I’m hoping to buy what I need for the first meeting over time and start the group in August. I’d love some feedback. Any of you ever attended a book club? What did you like or not like about it?