R.E.S.P.E.C.T

R- Respect. Demand to be Respected. Don’t let people walk all over you because your trying to be nice. There’s a different between being nice and being foolish. If they’ve shown they don’t respect you, move on. Stop trying to explain to disrespectful people how they should be treating you. They know, they are just choosing not to show you the respect you deserve. So moving forward you don’t need that in your circle.

E- Expectations. Stop Expecting people to do and be something they are not. Just because you expect people to treat you well doesn’t mean they will. You expect that someone you care about would apologize when they’ve hurt you, but expectations can set you up for failures. Learn to separate expectations and reality.

S- Standards. Have Standards, and that goes for anyone, any type of relationships. If you don’t want to deal with people who constantly talk behind your back, talk down about you, never wanna help you, don’t build you up, don’t stick up for you when necessary and dont benefit your life in any way, Dont! Its doesnt matter if their family either. They got to go! I’m not saying be mean, I’m saying know your worth.

P- Presentation. If people Present themselves as fake, believe what you seeing. If they’ve show you they ain’t no good, stop having faith in bad people to do right. Actions always speak louder than words. Observe how people present their true selves. Don’t get hurt because you chose to wear blinders.

E- Effort. If you put forth an Effort to call, text and check on others but they don’t do it for you, pay attention. Its doesn’t have to be 50/50 but 90/10 is not acceptable. Stop making an effort to run yourself in the ground trying to worry about people who are not worried about you.

C- Commitment. Stop Committing yourself to those who would not make those same commitments to you. You’ll find yourself always upset and stating how you continue to do for people what they wouldn’t think to do for you in return. That’s letting people borrow money, baby-sitting their children, giving them rides, being a good listener, etc.

T- Time. Stop trying to delay when someone’s Time is up in your life. Everyone is not meant to go into the next chapter with you and thats okay. If they’ve served their purpose in your life, when its time to let them go, let them go.

I’m an independent women

I’m not use to not having to hustle.
I’m not use to not having to do it all.

I’ve been an independent women every since I’ve been seventeen years old. Though yes I’ve had times I had to stick a hand out or ask for a favor I have always had to look out for me. I went from living with my grandmother to staying with friends, to staying with my stepmom to getting my very own apartment all by nineteen. I had my first daughter at that age and I’ve felt the need to be a go-getter/hustler every since.



I was a single mother. Who else was going to take care of me and my little girl if I didnt. I worked so many jobs I think I missed out on moments but we had to survive. If you didnt know me you wouldnt think I was going home to a kid every night the way I worked to provide for her.


By twenty-four I had my second daughter, still having to be a single mother, but I was better established kinda. I only worked one job so I had more of a routine to be a little bit more present the second time around. I’m not going to act like I didnt struggle though.


After having my second daughter I lost my position at work and wasnt able to go right back to work after my leave and it left me devastated and depressed. Still I pushed forward and they were able to place me after a two month wait and a eviction notice.

Current day I’m twenty-seven and my are things different. I have a wonderful husband, whom I’ve been with three years. I’m currently pregnant with my third child (first son). I’m not working, kinda by choice. Also kinda because my husband agreed for me to quit my last job, kinda so I could go back to school and plus it’s a little hard to get a job to accept you months before your due. Either way it’s been driving me nuts.

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Starting Chapter 27 in my life.

The cake I bought to cheer myself up.

A few days ago I celebrated my twenty seventh birthday. Believe it or not I didnt wake up the happiest about it though. Yes, I’m thankful that I woke up that day, in good health, and alive to enjoy my family another day. The thing is I’ve been stressed a lot lately.

Our bills at home are behind, I’m going through ups and downs raising my children, I’m currently pregnant (so very emotional), I’m struggling in school and I work but not as much so money is an issue. I cant forget to mention that my husband works from sun up until sun down trying his best to support us, which means I miss him greatly. Work though had been on edge for him though. He was working full time has a cook at a restaurant. He ending up picking up a second job to increase his experience and make more money but three months in, because we were unable to obtain his GED, they let him go. For weeks he was only working twenty hours a week at the restaurant and the pay is very little, so our bills suffered. He recently picked up another full time job cooking at another restaurant so he’s back to two jobs but now we are playing catch up.

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