Third Times the Charm

This time I want my child birth experience to be private and intimate. The first two times I felt so bombarded with family and friends trying more to see and interact with the baby less about my well being and letting me get some rest. I knew they meant well so I never voiced that I wanted more time to myself to be with my babies.


I really wanted to let the moment soak in and get adjusted. As the nurses came in to encourage skin to skin and help me latch the baby on to breast feed I desired those moments to be quite and peaceful. People showed up to hold, take pictures of the baby and some even brought small gifts. It was all nice but very overwhelming and I kinda wished it was different.

So now approaching child birth for the third time I really need all of what I didnt get in the process before. I have to go in for a c-section. Its a very high anxiety and nerve wrecking process for me to begin with. I just want to go in with my husband. I would like only my parents and the God-parents present until he gets here and we get adjusted. Then the rest of the kids will come to greet their baby brother. That’s it!

I don’t want any visitors. I don’t want to be overwhelmed. I dont want pictures taken unless it me or my husband taken them. I dont want anyone in my face. I dont want to share my first moments this time. I just want what my husband and I want, and not feeling pressured to include everyone else in our moment.


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Is it too much to ask that people dont take it personal and get upset that we didn’t include them? I’ve been told “well it’s your baby, you’ll get all the time with the baby when you go home, and that’s selfish”.

Selfish!? Shouldn’t the child birthing experience be one desired by the parent/parents? What do you all think about my well needed desires? Any of you experience similar wants or problems as such during childbirth??

This mom has had it! Why is it that I have to repeat myself like a robot everyday?

It shouldn’t be too hard now for my children to remember our morning routine, right? I mean my oldest, Celina, will be eight in December. Am I applying to my pressure by assuming that since its her third year in elementary school that she should remember that her face needs to be washed, teeth must be brushed, put on some socks or stockings, shoes should come after with ease, please grab your bookbag, it’s getting cold you need a coat and I know you can’t see (like myself we are blind as bats) get those glasses on your face.

Don’t be fooled by there smiles. They are my crazies.

Every morning is a battle with these two. My youngest, Christina, is only three but some days it’s her listening skills that get her in trouble. I’ll ask her to take her pj’s off, which she can, to make it easier for me to come in and get her dressed. I come back a few minutes later and guess who still has on her pj’s? Once I finally get her dressed I tell her socks, shoes, coat. Can you believe she takes her sweet time or she has on her shoes but now she’s walking around dragging the coat behind her. Little girl, “put on that coat now”. I’m starting to think they like to make me fuss. 

Let’s not forget the girl fights! “Mom”. “Mommy”.“Stop it, why did you do that”. “Mommy nina hit me”. “She took the phone from me, I had it first”. “Ma”. “Mommy”. “MOMMY”. “MOMMY”. Humor me, am I allowed to change my name from Mom to something else? No, just thought I’d ask. Sometimes I just don’t answer, but believe me they only get louder. Then I have to turn into super annoyed, my headache is starting to form, you both are getting on my very last nerve, and if you call my name one more time I’m getting the belt mom. 

Before anyone shames me for saying “I’m getting the belt” in the Bible ( I used the NLT for better translation) Proverbs 23:13-14 states, Don’t fail to discipline your children. The rod of punishment won’t kill them. Physical discipline may well save them from death.

So, do any of you have some crazy things your kids do to make you want wine for breakfast? Please comment, leave me your thoughts, any suggestions you have to help fix my morning routine and as always I look forward to hearing from you all!! MUCH LOVE

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