R.E.S.P.E.C.T

R- Respect. Demand to be Respected. Don’t let people walk all over you because your trying to be nice. There’s a different between being nice and being foolish. If they’ve shown they don’t respect you, move on. Stop trying to explain to disrespectful people how they should be treating you. They know, they are just choosing not to show you the respect you deserve. So moving forward you don’t need that in your circle.

E- Expectations. Stop Expecting people to do and be something they are not. Just because you expect people to treat you well doesn’t mean they will. You expect that someone you care about would apologize when they’ve hurt you, but expectations can set you up for failures. Learn to separate expectations and reality.

S- Standards. Have Standards, and that goes for anyone, any type of relationships. If you don’t want to deal with people who constantly talk behind your back, talk down about you, never wanna help you, don’t build you up, don’t stick up for you when necessary and dont benefit your life in any way, Dont! Its doesnt matter if their family either. They got to go! I’m not saying be mean, I’m saying know your worth.

P- Presentation. If people Present themselves as fake, believe what you seeing. If they’ve show you they ain’t no good, stop having faith in bad people to do right. Actions always speak louder than words. Observe how people present their true selves. Don’t get hurt because you chose to wear blinders.

E- Effort. If you put forth an Effort to call, text and check on others but they don’t do it for you, pay attention. Its doesn’t have to be 50/50 but 90/10 is not acceptable. Stop making an effort to run yourself in the ground trying to worry about people who are not worried about you.

C- Commitment. Stop Committing yourself to those who would not make those same commitments to you. You’ll find yourself always upset and stating how you continue to do for people what they wouldn’t think to do for you in return. That’s letting people borrow money, baby-sitting their children, giving them rides, being a good listener, etc.

T- Time. Stop trying to delay when someone’s Time is up in your life. Everyone is not meant to go into the next chapter with you and thats okay. If they’ve served their purpose in your life, when its time to let them go, let them go.

This mom has had it! Why is it that I have to repeat myself like a robot everyday?

It shouldn’t be too hard now for my children to remember our morning routine, right? I mean my oldest, Celina, will be eight in December. Am I applying to my pressure by assuming that since its her third year in elementary school that she should remember that her face needs to be washed, teeth must be brushed, put on some socks or stockings, shoes should come after with ease, please grab your bookbag, it’s getting cold you need a coat and I know you can’t see (like myself we are blind as bats) get those glasses on your face.

Don’t be fooled by there smiles. They are my crazies.

Every morning is a battle with these two. My youngest, Christina, is only three but some days it’s her listening skills that get her in trouble. I’ll ask her to take her pj’s off, which she can, to make it easier for me to come in and get her dressed. I come back a few minutes later and guess who still has on her pj’s? Once I finally get her dressed I tell her socks, shoes, coat. Can you believe she takes her sweet time or she has on her shoes but now she’s walking around dragging the coat behind her. Little girl, “put on that coat now”. I’m starting to think they like to make me fuss. 

Let’s not forget the girl fights! “Mom”. “Mommy”.“Stop it, why did you do that”. “Mommy nina hit me”. “She took the phone from me, I had it first”. “Ma”. “Mommy”. “MOMMY”. “MOMMY”. Humor me, am I allowed to change my name from Mom to something else? No, just thought I’d ask. Sometimes I just don’t answer, but believe me they only get louder. Then I have to turn into super annoyed, my headache is starting to form, you both are getting on my very last nerve, and if you call my name one more time I’m getting the belt mom. 

Before anyone shames me for saying “I’m getting the belt” in the Bible ( I used the NLT for better translation) Proverbs 23:13-14 states, Don’t fail to discipline your children. The rod of punishment won’t kill them. Physical discipline may well save them from death.

So, do any of you have some crazy things your kids do to make you want wine for breakfast? Please comment, leave me your thoughts, any suggestions you have to help fix my morning routine and as always I look forward to hearing from you all!! MUCH LOVE

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