Entrepreneurship

I recently had a friend say to me that this is really the time for entrepreneurs to flourish. I cannot agree with her more. I now more than ever desire to be more present with my family. I have a household of seven, and I don’t feel that I can really be present for my family working cooperate hours. I’m so tired of the typical 9-5 plus jobs. Even working from home but answering hundreds of calls during an 8-10 hour shift really is a lot. I would love to work on my own time but still provide for my family.

I’ve gone back and forth with myself for years about whether I truly wanted to be a business owner. I’ve spent most of that time doubting myself. I’ve started and stopped more than a few projects. Sometimes I’ve even been to busy praising the talents of others that I haven’t had time to notice my own. I’m too caught up in that fact that I can’t sew, braid hair, bake, cut grass, or sell anything. Instead I should be focused on what I can do and focused on what I do have that can help me.

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I kept saying how I don’t have a hobby or talent than could turn into cash. I have a computer though. I love to read. I love to write. I mange social media accounts for my sisters business, and though its very time consuming I find great joy in just doing the work. I love to email, fax, blog, file paperwork, manage email accounts, type, and research. I do those things often just because. I’m always writing and reading articles. I’ve always considered myself to be what I call “the world greatest secretary”. I used to do paperwork and advertising for my mothers daycare and I loved it. I’ve worked in doctors offices doing administrative work and enjoyed my work load I just wanted out of that profession. Clerical work has always been my specialty. So why not go into business for myself providing that kind of support to other business owners?

With that being said, Bianca Simone Personal Assisting LLC has been born. Services Include:
• Managing social media accounts
• Handle advertising/marketing
• Engage with your customers through call, text, and social media messaging
• Provide clerical work (writing, emails, faxes, etc)
• Website maintenance
• Manage email accounts
• Scheduling appointments
• Blog writing

I just wanted to share my story but seriously if you or anyone you know need a PA, please feel free to reach out.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T

R- Respect. Demand to be Respected. Don’t let people walk all over you because your trying to be nice. There’s a different between being nice and being foolish. If they’ve shown they don’t respect you, move on. Stop trying to explain to disrespectful people how they should be treating you. They know, they are just choosing not to show you the respect you deserve. So moving forward you don’t need that in your circle.

E- Expectations. Stop Expecting people to do and be something they are not. Just because you expect people to treat you well doesn’t mean they will. You expect that someone you care about would apologize when they’ve hurt you, but expectations can set you up for failures. Learn to separate expectations and reality.

S- Standards. Have Standards, and that goes for anyone, any type of relationships. If you don’t want to deal with people who constantly talk behind your back, talk down about you, never wanna help you, don’t build you up, don’t stick up for you when necessary and dont benefit your life in any way, Dont! Its doesnt matter if their family either. They got to go! I’m not saying be mean, I’m saying know your worth.

P- Presentation. If people Present themselves as fake, believe what you seeing. If they’ve show you they ain’t no good, stop having faith in bad people to do right. Actions always speak louder than words. Observe how people present their true selves. Don’t get hurt because you chose to wear blinders.

E- Effort. If you put forth an Effort to call, text and check on others but they don’t do it for you, pay attention. Its doesn’t have to be 50/50 but 90/10 is not acceptable. Stop making an effort to run yourself in the ground trying to worry about people who are not worried about you.

C- Commitment. Stop Committing yourself to those who would not make those same commitments to you. You’ll find yourself always upset and stating how you continue to do for people what they wouldn’t think to do for you in return. That’s letting people borrow money, baby-sitting their children, giving them rides, being a good listener, etc.

T- Time. Stop trying to delay when someone’s Time is up in your life. Everyone is not meant to go into the next chapter with you and thats okay. If they’ve served their purpose in your life, when its time to let them go, let them go.

Third Times the Charm

This time I want my child birth experience to be private and intimate. The first two times I felt so bombarded with family and friends trying more to see and interact with the baby less about my well being and letting me get some rest. I knew they meant well so I never voiced that I wanted more time to myself to be with my babies.


I really wanted to let the moment soak in and get adjusted. As the nurses came in to encourage skin to skin and help me latch the baby on to breast feed I desired those moments to be quite and peaceful. People showed up to hold, take pictures of the baby and some even brought small gifts. It was all nice but very overwhelming and I kinda wished it was different.

So now approaching child birth for the third time I really need all of what I didnt get in the process before. I have to go in for a c-section. Its a very high anxiety and nerve wrecking process for me to begin with. I just want to go in with my husband. I would like only my parents and the God-parents present until he gets here and we get adjusted. Then the rest of the kids will come to greet their baby brother. That’s it!

I don’t want any visitors. I don’t want to be overwhelmed. I dont want pictures taken unless it me or my husband taken them. I dont want anyone in my face. I dont want to share my first moments this time. I just want what my husband and I want, and not feeling pressured to include everyone else in our moment.


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Is it too much to ask that people dont take it personal and get upset that we didn’t include them? I’ve been told “well it’s your baby, you’ll get all the time with the baby when you go home, and that’s selfish”.

Selfish!? Shouldn’t the child birthing experience be one desired by the parent/parents? What do you all think about my well needed desires? Any of you experience similar wants or problems as such during childbirth??

Three’s a Crowd

But, shes my Bestfriend!

My sister in law and I are besties. I see her probably about four to five times a week. I visit with her family (my brother and their three children) at there house on the regular. Lets just say, I’m there so much I almost live there.

When ever I go with me are always my two little ones. Many of the afternoons we visit we don’t leave until bed time. We are there right after the kids get out of school, through dinner time, until they start shutting their house down and I’m to tired really to drive home. Most days I feel guilty of staying because I know they dont have it like that and we are always adding three mouths to their dinner plans. Now I will ask if I can help buy a part of dinner sometimes but not always.

Other times I feel guilty of staying because my brother will make comments like “you should spend time with yourself sometimes” or “alright see you next week”. Tonight he told me,”I’m really just trying to get a good routine down with my kids without anything extra” after I said my goodbyes and joked about how he probably doesn’t wanna see my face for a few days. It’s me, I’m the extra he speaks of. This sounded like to me okay its Monday, I dont wanna see you again for at least five to seven days.

My sister and I are close though. We talk about everything. She is my married friend, my sister in Chirst, and my to go to person. I guess you can call me clingy. Tonight on my drive home I thought to myself, maybe I won’t go back until next week. I thought, maybe I will just call her, maybe I will visit only for an hour every two days or so and leave, or maybe I should just go once a week on like a Saturday or Sunday and just know when it’s my time to go.

It saddens me though. Even still I cant be upset because my brother wants to be at home with just his wife and kids. I know if I just stay away she will call and ask me why. I just feel like suddenly pushing her away though. My husband works nights and when I come home it’s just me and the kids. I’m not saying I don’t like spending time with the kids but I also crave adult interaction. Is my brother right, do I not like to be alone?

During the week, I must confess, I sit at there house even when they are not home. Sometimes my sister comes home on her break from work and I wait just to chat with her for a bit. Why is it that I don’t I go back to my own house? I could be doing my homework, washing clothes, sweeping and mopping floors, organizing my things, sitting out the kids clothing for the following day, or just enjoying my own company in the comfort of my home. There’s a million things I could be doing but instead I sit at their house all day everyday darn near.

Dinners are not being made at home, the kids aren’t doing their chores, and we don’t have a routine at home they we can stick to. Shouldn’t I be concerned of my evening routine with my children as well? Clearly I need to prioritize my weeks better and spend way less time and my families house. Maybe I can learn to love alone time and being in my own space.

There are times when my brother will pull his wife to the side “to talk” and I instantly think it’s about me. She has confessed to me before that he has questioned her about me being there so much. I immediately feel awkward when he pulls her to their room, garage or outside to talk. I’m sure evertime it’s not about me but I’m positive I come up.

Have you ever had something like this happen to you? How does it make you feel? What would you do in this situation? Let me know below, I’d love to hear from you all. MUCH LOVE