R.E.S.P.E.C.T

R- Respect. Demand to be Respected. Don’t let people walk all over you because your trying to be nice. There’s a different between being nice and being foolish. If they’ve shown they don’t respect you, move on. Stop trying to explain to disrespectful people how they should be treating you. They know, they are just choosing not to show you the respect you deserve. So moving forward you don’t need that in your circle.

E- Expectations. Stop Expecting people to do and be something they are not. Just because you expect people to treat you well doesn’t mean they will. You expect that someone you care about would apologize when they’ve hurt you, but expectations can set you up for failures. Learn to separate expectations and reality.

S- Standards. Have Standards, and that goes for anyone, any type of relationships. If you don’t want to deal with people who constantly talk behind your back, talk down about you, never wanna help you, don’t build you up, don’t stick up for you when necessary and dont benefit your life in any way, Dont! Its doesnt matter if their family either. They got to go! I’m not saying be mean, I’m saying know your worth.

P- Presentation. If people Present themselves as fake, believe what you seeing. If they’ve show you they ain’t no good, stop having faith in bad people to do right. Actions always speak louder than words. Observe how people present their true selves. Don’t get hurt because you chose to wear blinders.

E- Effort. If you put forth an Effort to call, text and check on others but they don’t do it for you, pay attention. Its doesn’t have to be 50/50 but 90/10 is not acceptable. Stop making an effort to run yourself in the ground trying to worry about people who are not worried about you.

C- Commitment. Stop Committing yourself to those who would not make those same commitments to you. You’ll find yourself always upset and stating how you continue to do for people what they wouldn’t think to do for you in return. That’s letting people borrow money, baby-sitting their children, giving them rides, being a good listener, etc.

T- Time. Stop trying to delay when someone’s Time is up in your life. Everyone is not meant to go into the next chapter with you and thats okay. If they’ve served their purpose in your life, when its time to let them go, let them go.

School during Covid-19

Most or all parents are currently discussing weather or not to send there children back to school in the fall. I can say that I have had mixed emotions about my decision. I’m a parent that works Full-time. So I know other parents can agree with me that we almost need for our children to go back to school. I need to work to provide for my family, therefore I don’t have a lot of time to really teach my children, though I do work with them at home.

Attending school allows for about 30 hours a week of engaging in different subjects, socializing among their peers, patient teachers, and room to work on their motor skills. Not to mention they also provide free lunch. I’m going to be honest, I depend on the schools to feed my kids lunch 5 days a week for 10 months of the year (minus school breaks). Take that however you like, but I know I’ll see and increase of money spent on groceries if I keep them home.

My children are looking forward to going back to school. My girls will be going to preschool and the third grade. They continue to remind me that they cannot wait to see their teachers and their friends again. With school letting out really early due to covid, my kids have grown sick of me. They want to engage with other children their age. I understand their need for a new/familiar environment. I work from home so we hardly ever leave the house. Everyday my four year old asks me can we go somewhere. She really wants to just get out the house.

During this summer break I’ve bought books and signed up for online learning to keep my children’s skills sharp. I bought books for math, reading comprehension, science, geography, writing, and grammar. I even got my four year old all types of flash cards so we could continue to work on her shapes, numbers, and letters. Even with all of that, I’m not a teacher. I don’t have any lesson plans, a structured teaching method, or the patience. Plus their teaching a different method of math than I learned when I was elementary. Half the time I hoping my eight year old knows what shes doing because I have no clue.

After much thought, I did decide to keep my little ones at home this year. My reasons are not all covid related because the God I serve is bigger than this virus. My main reason is because I’m working from home. I would have to quit working to be able to take the kids to school and pick them up because of the time I work. I’m not a millionaire yet, so I can’t really afford to quit working. Most of school year is during Flu-season, not going to chance it this year since we have the choice to keep the children home. Also, don’t get me started, if they start asking about a covid vaccine the answer is no.

I plan to continue to work with my preschooler when I get off work and buy my third grader a laptop so she can learn virtually. This will be a new experience for all of us. Of course everyone will decide what is best for them.