School during Covid-19

Most or all parents are currently discussing weather or not to send there children back to school in the fall. I can say that I have had mixed emotions about my decision. I’m a parent that works Full-time. So I know other parents can agree with me that we almost need for our children to go back to school. I need to work to provide for my family, therefore I don’t have a lot of time to really teach my children, though I do work with them at home.

Attending school allows for about 30 hours a week of engaging in different subjects, socializing among their peers, patient teachers, and room to work on their motor skills. Not to mention they also provide free lunch. I’m going to be honest, I depend on the schools to feed my kids lunch 5 days a week for 10 months of the year (minus school breaks). Take that however you like, but I know I’ll see and increase of money spent on groceries if I keep them home.

My children are looking forward to going back to school. My girls will be going to preschool and the third grade. They continue to remind me that they cannot wait to see their teachers and their friends again. With school letting out really early due to covid, my kids have grown sick of me. They want to engage with other children their age. I understand their need for a new/familiar environment. I work from home so we hardly ever leave the house. Everyday my four year old asks me can we go somewhere. She really wants to just get out the house.

During this summer break I’ve bought books and signed up for online learning to keep my children’s skills sharp. I bought books for math, reading comprehension, science, geography, writing, and grammar. I even got my four year old all types of flash cards so we could continue to work on her shapes, numbers, and letters. Even with all of that, I’m not a teacher. I don’t have any lesson plans, a structured teaching method, or the patience. Plus their teaching a different method of math than I learned when I was elementary. Half the time I hoping my eight year old knows what shes doing because I have no clue.

After much thought, I did decide to keep my little ones at home this year. My reasons are not all covid related because the God I serve is bigger than this virus. My main reason is because I’m working from home. I would have to quit working to be able to take the kids to school and pick them up because of the time I work. I’m not a millionaire yet, so I can’t really afford to quit working. Most of school year is during Flu-season, not going to chance it this year since we have the choice to keep the children home. Also, don’t get me started, if they start asking about a covid vaccine the answer is no.

I plan to continue to work with my preschooler when I get off work and buy my third grader a laptop so she can learn virtually. This will be a new experience for all of us. Of course everyone will decide what is best for them.

Breastfeeding is Hard Work

I have officially made it to 5 months breastfeeding my third child. My first baby I quit after 4 weeks and the second I quit after about 16 weeks. With this being my last go around I wanted to giving breastfeeding a real chance. I believe in the benefits breastfeeding has to offer my little one. The bond I have with my baby boy is amazing! The only thing is breastfeeding and pumping is very time consuming and I’m a busy mom.

The truth is sometimes I want to give in because it can be so overwhelming. I truly enjoying breastfeeding but it’s hard trying to work 40+ hours a week, maintain my household, complete chores and find time to pump. I want to switch to bottle feeding the baby (especially at night) but I’m too lazy to pump as often as I should. Pumping is so exhausting! I feel like the pump sucks up all of my energy leaving me drowsy and ready for a nap. At times pumping can be so discouraging. I wish I could fill up 8 oz bottles every time I go to pump so I can store enough to bottle fed. Unfortunately, I don’t and it gets to me at times. Every month that I’ve managed to continue breastfeeding I do celebrate myself. I know that I’m making a selfless decision by giving my baby the best option. Plus I don’t have to worry myself about the cost of formula.

I’m enjoying our breastfeeding journey and I’d love to breastfeed until he’s two. This has not been easy though. Breastfeeding is hard work! I’d love to hear from other moms. Am I the only one that feels like this? Please, feel free share your journeys with me.

“Breastfeeding is a mother’s gift to herself, her baby and the earth”.

-Pamela K. Wiggins
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Third Times the Charm

This time I want my child birth experience to be private and intimate. The first two times I felt so bombarded with family and friends trying more to see and interact with the baby less about my well being and letting me get some rest. I knew they meant well so I never voiced that I wanted more time to myself to be with my babies.


I really wanted to let the moment soak in and get adjusted. As the nurses came in to encourage skin to skin and help me latch the baby on to breast feed I desired those moments to be quite and peaceful. People showed up to hold, take pictures of the baby and some even brought small gifts. It was all nice but very overwhelming and I kinda wished it was different.

So now approaching child birth for the third time I really need all of what I didnt get in the process before. I have to go in for a c-section. Its a very high anxiety and nerve wrecking process for me to begin with. I just want to go in with my husband. I would like only my parents and the God-parents present until he gets here and we get adjusted. Then the rest of the kids will come to greet their baby brother. That’s it!

I don’t want any visitors. I don’t want to be overwhelmed. I dont want pictures taken unless it me or my husband taken them. I dont want anyone in my face. I dont want to share my first moments this time. I just want what my husband and I want, and not feeling pressured to include everyone else in our moment.


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Is it too much to ask that people dont take it personal and get upset that we didn’t include them? I’ve been told “well it’s your baby, you’ll get all the time with the baby when you go home, and that’s selfish”.

Selfish!? Shouldn’t the child birthing experience be one desired by the parent/parents? What do you all think about my well needed desires? Any of you experience similar wants or problems as such during childbirth??