Entrepreneurship

I recently had a friend say to me that this is really the time for entrepreneurs to flourish. I cannot agree with her more. I now more than ever desire to be more present with my family. I have a household of seven, and I don’t feel that I can really be present for my family working cooperate hours. I’m so tired of the typical 9-5 plus jobs. Even working from home but answering hundreds of calls during an 8-10 hour shift really is a lot. I would love to work on my own time but still provide for my family.

I’ve gone back and forth with myself for years about whether I truly wanted to be a business owner. I’ve spent most of that time doubting myself. I’ve started and stopped more than a few projects. Sometimes I’ve even been to busy praising the talents of others that I haven’t had time to notice my own. I’m too caught up in that fact that I can’t sew, braid hair, bake, cut grass, or sell anything. Instead I should be focused on what I can do and focused on what I do have that can help me.

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I kept saying how I don’t have a hobby or talent than could turn into cash. I have a computer though. I love to read. I love to write. I mange social media accounts for my sisters business, and though its very time consuming I find great joy in just doing the work. I love to email, fax, blog, file paperwork, manage email accounts, type, and research. I do those things often just because. I’m always writing and reading articles. I’ve always considered myself to be what I call “the world greatest secretary”. I used to do paperwork and advertising for my mothers daycare and I loved it. I’ve worked in doctors offices doing administrative work and enjoyed my work load I just wanted out of that profession. Clerical work has always been my specialty. So why not go into business for myself providing that kind of support to other business owners?

With that being said, Bianca Simone Personal Assisting LLC has been born. Services Include:
• Managing social media accounts
• Handle advertising/marketing
• Engage with your customers through call, text, and social media messaging
• Provide clerical work (writing, emails, faxes, etc)
• Website maintenance
• Manage email accounts
• Scheduling appointments
• Blog writing

I just wanted to share my story but seriously if you or anyone you know need a PA, please feel free to reach out.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T

R- Respect. Demand to be Respected. Don’t let people walk all over you because your trying to be nice. There’s a different between being nice and being foolish. If they’ve shown they don’t respect you, move on. Stop trying to explain to disrespectful people how they should be treating you. They know, they are just choosing not to show you the respect you deserve. So moving forward you don’t need that in your circle.

E- Expectations. Stop Expecting people to do and be something they are not. Just because you expect people to treat you well doesn’t mean they will. You expect that someone you care about would apologize when they’ve hurt you, but expectations can set you up for failures. Learn to separate expectations and reality.

S- Standards. Have Standards, and that goes for anyone, any type of relationships. If you don’t want to deal with people who constantly talk behind your back, talk down about you, never wanna help you, don’t build you up, don’t stick up for you when necessary and dont benefit your life in any way, Dont! Its doesnt matter if their family either. They got to go! I’m not saying be mean, I’m saying know your worth.

P- Presentation. If people Present themselves as fake, believe what you seeing. If they’ve show you they ain’t no good, stop having faith in bad people to do right. Actions always speak louder than words. Observe how people present their true selves. Don’t get hurt because you chose to wear blinders.

E- Effort. If you put forth an Effort to call, text and check on others but they don’t do it for you, pay attention. Its doesn’t have to be 50/50 but 90/10 is not acceptable. Stop making an effort to run yourself in the ground trying to worry about people who are not worried about you.

C- Commitment. Stop Committing yourself to those who would not make those same commitments to you. You’ll find yourself always upset and stating how you continue to do for people what they wouldn’t think to do for you in return. That’s letting people borrow money, baby-sitting their children, giving them rides, being a good listener, etc.

T- Time. Stop trying to delay when someone’s Time is up in your life. Everyone is not meant to go into the next chapter with you and thats okay. If they’ve served their purpose in your life, when its time to let them go, let them go.

School during Covid-19

Most or all parents are currently discussing weather or not to send there children back to school in the fall. I can say that I have had mixed emotions about my decision. I’m a parent that works Full-time. So I know other parents can agree with me that we almost need for our children to go back to school. I need to work to provide for my family, therefore I don’t have a lot of time to really teach my children, though I do work with them at home.

Attending school allows for about 30 hours a week of engaging in different subjects, socializing among their peers, patient teachers, and room to work on their motor skills. Not to mention they also provide free lunch. I’m going to be honest, I depend on the schools to feed my kids lunch 5 days a week for 10 months of the year (minus school breaks). Take that however you like, but I know I’ll see and increase of money spent on groceries if I keep them home.

My children are looking forward to going back to school. My girls will be going to preschool and the third grade. They continue to remind me that they cannot wait to see their teachers and their friends again. With school letting out really early due to covid, my kids have grown sick of me. They want to engage with other children their age. I understand their need for a new/familiar environment. I work from home so we hardly ever leave the house. Everyday my four year old asks me can we go somewhere. She really wants to just get out the house.

During this summer break I’ve bought books and signed up for online learning to keep my children’s skills sharp. I bought books for math, reading comprehension, science, geography, writing, and grammar. I even got my four year old all types of flash cards so we could continue to work on her shapes, numbers, and letters. Even with all of that, I’m not a teacher. I don’t have any lesson plans, a structured teaching method, or the patience. Plus their teaching a different method of math than I learned when I was elementary. Half the time I hoping my eight year old knows what shes doing because I have no clue.

After much thought, I did decide to keep my little ones at home this year. My reasons are not all covid related because the God I serve is bigger than this virus. My main reason is because I’m working from home. I would have to quit working to be able to take the kids to school and pick them up because of the time I work. I’m not a millionaire yet, so I can’t really afford to quit working. Most of school year is during Flu-season, not going to chance it this year since we have the choice to keep the children home. Also, don’t get me started, if they start asking about a covid vaccine the answer is no.

I plan to continue to work with my preschooler when I get off work and buy my third grader a laptop so she can learn virtually. This will be a new experience for all of us. Of course everyone will decide what is best for them.

God’s Plan

I currently don’t feel completely satisfied with my life. The only thing that I want right now but I currently lack is my Purpose. Purpose definition reads: the reason for which something is done or created. I find myself asking that question often, “Why was I created”.

I’ve prayed about this more times than I can remember. I find myself sometimes even pleading, “Lord please reveal to me why you created me, I want to know what my purpose is, and I want to step into the role you intended for me to be in”. I believe that in good time I will get the answer I’m seeking but it leaves me everyday still wondering about it. I really wanna know. I’ve been told that when it’s my time I will be informed, but sometimes I get impatient. Patience is hard to have when you want something so bad.

Many times I’m able to calm myself from being anxious about my destiny. I know deep down that I was created for a reason. Jeremiah 29:11 reads “For I know the plans I have for you” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope”. I can say that that scripture brings me great joy about the future that God has promised to me. I’m delighted knowing that He already has a plan intended just for me. He knew even before I was created why he placed me in my mother womb. I cannot wait to start fulfilling the plan the Lord has for my life. I want nothing more right now in life than to be the woman God intended for me to be. 

I plan to continue praying about my current desires for my life. I will continue to seek the answer I hope soon to be revealed to me. I love to serve the Lord. Serving Him is my main focus in life. 
#ChasingafterGod

Moving Pass the Past

Many of us can think of one or more situations in our past that has either left us broken-hearted or mentally scarred. Most of us have been able to forgive those people or move on past that hurt. Though there’s still a lot of us that have not been able to let go of the past.

It seems so easy to say that something is no longer bothering you until it comes up. Then all of those feelings of hurt, shame, anger, fear, or sadness come rushing back like they never left. Well that is because they didn’t leave, you’ve only suppressed those feelings. Meaning that you buried those emotions deep down. You just stopped thinking about them but never truly faced them.

Holding on to things the that hurt us don’t heal us. In order for us to heal, and move forward we must acknowledge those things no matter how bad they are. Start forgiving people, not for them, but for you. You may not forget it, but forgiveness will set you free from the very thing that you’ve been holding on to. Forgiveness is not easy. It’s a process that does take time. You may not heal overnight but you will heal overtime.

I’ve learned from experience that if your waiting on a “I’m Sorry” you could be waiting on something you will never get. We have to forgive those who hurt us, because they aren’t holding onto that pain, we are. Believe it or not, sometimes people don’t even know they’ve caused you pain. Then because we expect them to know they’ve hurt us, we’re walking around mad, and upset at the world.  Sometimes we even assume the worst of people who want to give us their best. Just because one or more people wrongs you doesn’t mean that everyone will.

Moving on is the best thing that you can do for you. No one can protect your heart, your feelings or your energy like you can. If you are not religious I respect your decision but if you are encourage you to pray about it. Seek guidance when trying to let go of those painful memories, hurtful words, and those eerie feelings. Allow yourself to trust again, and open up to good people. Don’t assume future relationships will repeat the mistakes of your past ones. I wish you all the best as we all work on shaking off our past.

“How can we move towards the future if we can’t move pass the past”.

Bianca Williams (me)
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I Am (Who I Say I Am)

More than often we need to speak life, positive, encouraging, and empowering words to ourselves. Learning to not speak defeat as it will overcome you. Sometimes we are stressed or not feeling like ourselves. This may be due to work, home, friends, family, bills, childcare, corona virus (these days), and whatever else bothers us or gets us worked up. Remember, the tongue is more powerful than you may think. We should all take caution to the things we say in regards to who we are. Claim that success. You are and achiever. You are Smart. You are Winning. Repeat.

I take time to myself weekly to uplift myself and my spirit. Spend sometime to create some “I Am’s” to uplift yourself. Mines are listed below:

I am Bianca.

I am a child of God.

I am Strong.

I am a Wise.

I am a Magnificent.

I am a Fighter.

I am Succesful.

I am Brilliant.

I am Able.

I am Grateful.

I am a Business Owner.

I am Good at everything I put my mind to.

I am Setting my Own Path.

I am Hopeful.

I am somebody Great.

I am going Far in Life.

I am Who I Say I Am.

💙Please feel free to share with me your take away from this exercise!!💙

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Sometimes, I really want to quit my job!

Some of you are probably saying “don’t we all”.  So for those who love their jobs/careers this one is not for you but do read anyway.

Six reasons why I want to quit are as follows:

  1. This job doesn’t make me happy. I am grateful to have a job. I just want to wake up everyday and do something that brings me joy instead.
  2. Working full-time takes me away from my kiddos. My youngest 3 are 8, 4, & 5 months. So though I’m here at home with them, I might as well be away in a office.
  3. I was not working for 10 months prior to this job. I was enjoying the stay at home mom lifestyle. Last year when I find out I was pregnant my hubby and I agreed I would stay home during and after the pregnancy for a while. So I feel spoiled now.
  4. I ended up getting a work from home position as a Customer Service Rep. Retail is not my thing. The last time I was in retail I worked for Family Dollar for over a year 7 years ago. Hated it.
  5. My background has to be quite. Trying to keep my kids quite (especially the baby) in their own home is not the easiest. My kids come up to my room all day asking for things or needing my help.
  6. Customer Service is frustrating. Dealing with upset people all day really rubs off on you. Every other customer has a nasty, and I mean nasty attitude. I get screamed at and cursed out more times then I can handle. I work for a large company and the customers make the job Super Stressful. I need a bottle of wine after every shift.

Again, I am happy to have a job. If it wasn’t for this job then I would not have or be able to do the things in my next list. It’s just, while trying to find myself and what would make me happy this job is the first on my list to go. I use to be a Medical Assistant and I’ve been asked “would you go back” and the answer is no! Here’s the thing, I don’t know what I want to do, I just know I don’t want to do this until I retire. My only desire, I’m sure of, is to travel the world. I just can’t do that with no money.

Here’s my list of 5 good reason why I keep my job:

  1. To provide for my family of course.
  2. To save us some money for buying a home, vacations, or rainy days. My husband pays most bills, so I’m able to put my check in the savings account.
  3. I wanted to be able to help my hubby with bills. I wanted to take the load off of him so much.
  4. So I can have money of my own. I love online shopping, and being able to afford my up keep. With that being said, I didn’t want to keep having to ask my husband for the money to do so.
  5. I do enjoy work most days, I’m not the kind of person that can just keep still. I just wish I could have full-time money with part-time hours.

Overall, I’m not really going to quit my job. At least not right now. I just really want to at times. Especially when calls have been back to back with nothing but angry customers who won’t let you get not a word in. I just wish there was something else for me. I’d go into business for myself but I don’t know what that would be or where I would start.

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Running Water

An excerpt from a recent poem by Laura A. Lord: “I could twist the tap and pull myself back until I’m only a few little drops / and then you could catch me in your hands like you used to do.”

Running Water

Book Club Anyone?!

I don’t know about the rest of you but I’ve never had a thing for crocheting. I don’t really play video games anymore, I don’t like to be outside as much, and I don’t watch TV on my own but I will watch shows with my husband. I have about two maybe three friends, maybe. Prior to Covid-19 I was going out to eat, going to the movies, and I was able downtown to the river walk. I only do those things with my husband though. Not that that’s a bad thing, as I love spending time with him, but I just wish I had more girlfriends to do things with. So, I was thinking about starting a Book Club. I want to be able to hang around women my age with maybe similar interests and sharing conversations about our lives, children, work, goals, and passions. Yes, we’ll discuss the book of course. Maybe I feel a certain way about how the main character is portrayed and someone else feels different. Great, let’s talk about it. I’ve always appreciated open discussions about a topic. It allows you to see a subject through the eyes and minds of many.


I want to be a part of something that’s enjoyable. I’d like to surround myself with good people that I can be social with. I don’t have much of a social life these days outside of my parents and siblings. I feel like a book club would be the perfect combination of building relationships and enjoying the experience, and expanding minds. I personally enjoy reading and I know that I can’t possibly be the only one. Here are the things I’m
concerned about with this idea though:

  1. Genre- I want to pick books I feel people are going to enjoy as a group.
  2. Books cost- I want to ask for the members to pay a $2-4 per month due to help fund the club books, refreshments and snacks but I don’t want that to be the reason they don’t come.
  3. Date & Time- I need to pick a day and time that works for me and others (considering a poll for potential members).
  4. Successful Start- I’m nervous because I’m the queen of starting projects I don’t finish. If people don’t show will I continue until they do? How do I get people to attend?

I have a few additional things to think about to be sure that this is really what I want to do. Again, I always have the ideas but not always the drive. Overall I’m excited. I hope that all goes as planned. I need a name for my book club as well. I’m hoping to buy what I need for the first meeting over time and start the group in August. I’d love some feedback. Any of you ever attended a book club? What did you like or not like about it?